Friday, November 14, 2008
Enabling
I have had much thought about enabling..... it's so easy to do as a parent or a boss... or as a service provider. You love your children and want to help them.... yet when you try to- you are so often perceived as being a nuisance - interfering, and in the way. Ultimately, you rescue for the moment, but bring contempt to you from the one you enable in the long run. If you allow the employee to go unchecked,they often do things without considering the big picture.... how it will affect the business - usually because they aren't the ones paying the bills. Is there a common denominator here? Is there a way to really live with people and not make them mad at you when you hold them accountable, or expect something from them? I have it all figured out with my marriage and kids living at home, but the rest is a mystery to me.... I have to think about this more.
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You have no control over other people's emotions. People can choose to be mad at you regardless of your actions. We need clear and reasonable expectations in all of our relationships. Choice and accountability is an eternal principle. There is always accountablity for every choice. If we ignore it, the consequences of poor choices usually magnify.
I am so glad to have found your blog. I gain so much insight from what you say. We think of you and your family often.
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